If I showed up with a cast, maybe they’d believe I was in pain."
But emotional pain doesn’t get flowers.
It gets ignored.
Dismissed.
Spiritualized into silence.

Until now.

✊🏾 This post is for every Black woman carrying what no one else can see.
You are not alone.
You are not broken.
You are not the pain.

A powerful reflection on emotional pain, racism, and generational trauma from a Black Gen X woman reclaiming her voice and healing in public.

🎭 Topic: “You Can See the Scar, But Not the Story”
🧠 Today, I'm sharing how at 50 years old, I’m just now understanding the deep emotional pain I carry — pain rooted in racism, poverty, and the legacy of slavery.

👀 I had to meet my emotional pain body before I could even begin to address my physical pain.

It’s personal.
It’s historical.
It’s generational.
And it’s not just me.

🫶🏾 My friend from TikTok, @Qstir, is doing her own life inventory. We’re from opposite shores of experience — but the trek feels tandem.

Let’s connect the dots together.

🪷 You did it. I did it. We did it. What did we do? We woke up WINNING.
This conversation could be your breakthrough.

#WokeUpWinningWarrior #SpeakFearlessly #BlackQueerHealing #SlaveryIsNotOver #RacismIsReal #GenX #WomenHealing #EmotionalWellness #WeStillRise #HealingTogether

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Grab your coffee (or your wine, I don’t judge), and let’s get into it.

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